The third Saturday in July is Toss Away The “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day. If you’ve never heard of this unusual holiday, it’s all about moving forward.
On Toss Away The “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day, everyone is encouraged to write down all the things in their life that are holding them back. On this day, step away from past worries and regrets and focus entirely on the present.
Summer may seem like an odd time to be making resolutions like this, but it’s actually the perfect time of the year. Things are slower and quieter. This hot-weather lull is the ideal time to reflect on the things that are keeping you from fully appreciating the present.
So, what are some things that you can let go of on this Toss Away The “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day?
1. Paths not taken
It is easy to play back past decisions and wonder if things could have been better. But just remember that the choices you made in the past made you who you are today! So today, toss away all the thoughts of “I could have had a better job” or “I should have moved to a different home” and focus on new choices going forward. After all, no one can change the past!
2. Things you failed to achieve
There are few things that sting more than dreams you tried to achieve and just simply fell short of. Whether it was a failed exam, a flubbed interview, or a broken relationship, those failures leave a mark, making it difficult to move past them. But it is important to remember that no one is defined by their failures. Encourage yourself to remember your triumphs as well, maybe by writing them down after you toss your failures in the trash.
3. Not being good enough
There are so many reasons that we beat ourselves up. Whether we don’t feel like we’ve reached our full potential or we’re frustrated with the same failures again and again, it is all too easy to give ourselves more blame than we deserve. On this Toss Away The “Could Haves” and “Should Haves”, resolve not to define yourself by your past failures or by criteria you measure yourself by. Instead, set realistic goals for yourself and resolve to try your best. None of us can do any better than that!
So, what should you do after you toss away your “could haves” and “should haves”?
Follow it up with a couple of resolutions about how things will be, going forward. Maybe this is the time to challenge yourself to try something you have always wanted to do but haven’t yet dared to. Or maybe you want to make simple daily resolutions — something as simple as improving your dental care or scheduling an annual checkup.
No matter how big or small your goals are, they should be about looking forward. That’s what this day is all about!